"even if someone says they don't judge - they do, as you say even subconsciously" Pah! I don't judge people... consciouly, subconscisously , or translucisdogeniconsciously : I wouldn't presume to... so there!
Furthermore, anyone who prides themselves on their unsual & almost preternatural ability to judge others on 'first impressions' is a Prize Asshat : almost everyone & their Uncle thinks they can do that... and they can't 'cos first impressions are often wrong. Those who think they can judge on first impressions and are proud of the (supposed) fact are merely jumping to conclusions based on scant evidence coloured by their own narrow minded perceptions. Which is nofink to be proud of.
Having said that, sometimes it's oh so clear that certain ppl are just Complete & Utter Bastards... and that others are wondewrful Iridescant Starflowers, sparkling in the Dreadful Night of this Existance in which we somehow seem to have become trapped. Innit.
I'm judging people is nothing bad. it's only bad to stop judging people, because you think you know everything. I've got prejudices but I will always be able to judge the individual new the more I know from him. You can put pieces together but you have to accept that the picture will never be complete. to think you have the full picture by looking at very few parts is plain stupid. And ignoring a bunch of pieces because you don't want to judge is stupid too. The charakter not a single piece its the picture itself.
Well, It really all depends... its usually just the feeling they give me when they walk into a room. Its not their Character, wit, or zealous attitude, but their aura. Their own self confidence and their pheromones.... yeah its weird but I wouldn't have the wonderful friends I have if I did it any other way!
usually I don't judge people , I'm not the kind of people who all that they do is judging others ; I think it would be far too better if we keep judging ourselves before we judge others . However , some people should be really judged , and I judge them by attitude , personality , the way they talk , behave , think .. etc.